NO regrets

About No Regrets:
Spiritual and Psychological Tools

In combination with the Ten Steps, the spiritual and psychological tools described in No Regrets provide the means through which you can let go of your regrets. These tools draw upon three types of resources: intellectual, psychological, and spiritual. Our intellectual or mental resources allow us to analyze ideas and events in a logical, rational way in order to determine cause and effect and to make sense of the world. Psychological resources enable us to marshal our intellect and our emotions to challenge and change the way we think and feel about ourselves, about others, and about events. Spiritual resources summon powers greater than ourselves to help us do what we could not do alone.

Journaling and thought analysis are the only tools that are mandatory for working the Ten Steps. The others, however, will greatly facilitate the process of letting go of regrets when they are applied. The spiritual and psychological tools and how to use them are described in detail in No Regrets. The tools are:

  1. Thought analysis
    • The process of analyzing what you are saying to yourself about yourself and about others to determine the validity of the thoughts.
    • Purpose: to analyze your regrets, the events associated with them, the feelings you have about them, and the way in which you think about them; to change the way you think and feel about your regrets.
  2. Journaling
    • The process of writing about something in a structured way.
    • Purpose: to catalogue and analyze your regrets, to clarify your thoughts, and to express your feelings.
  3. Prayer
    • The process of communicating with God, however you define or understand God to be.
    • Purpose: to gain the insight, courage, discipline, strength, and other resources you need to work each of the steps and to let go of your regrets.
  4. Sharing with others to find emotional support and gain insights from other people as part of the process of working the steps.
  5. Affirmations
    • A written or spoken statement made to yourself in language that is clear, positive, and concise that a future desired state is already in existence.
    • Purpose: to overcome resistance to working the steps and to facilitate their completion.
  6. Creative visualization
    • The process of using our imagination consciously, creatively, and specifically to imagine things the way we want them to be.
    • Purpose: to overcome resistance to working the steps and to facilitate their completion.